A summary of Mary

(Character three of seven)

April 20, 2008

 

If you knew what she was thinking she would not seem so crazy

Most of the time it is really quite simple

She wants something

She has managed to figure out how to get it

A twisting of words and emotions

To make something that is not real seem real

If only to herself

Enough to make her believe it

So that she is at her most convincing

Unless you call her out

She has managed to become unbeatable

You are left with two options if you do not just say yes

to whatever she wants

You can just say no

Give no reason

In way of avoiding confrontation that is sure to be ugly

But then she has permission to paint you

And your lack of words as

Mean

Unreasonable

She becomes the victim

And you the villain

But if you happen to be brave

Or crazy enough to say it how it is

No because…

She is left with no other choice but to deny

Deny

Deny

Then there is the diversion

It isn’t her

It’s got to be you

You’re paranoid

To think that she is trying to manipulate you

You are vain

To think that she even cares that much about it

So she drops her request

It could not matter less

You are crazy

It was just a suggestion

And then she has permission to paint you as arrogant

You think much too much about yourself

she becomes wise

and you are so simple

And if you do manage to just say no

If there seems to be a smidgen of hope

in her mind

 

that she may get her way

She will push

Why not?

Who would not want to do whatever or go wherever

or blah blah?

What’s the big deal?

Why?

Why?

Why?

Why?

Until you give in or until she feels that no really means no.

But even then

If there is a possible ‘in’ with your other half

 

Or your frinds

Or your siblings

Or, and this is worst of all, with your children

She will try

It may take months

But she may still get her way

No matter what you said

She may even work on this thing

Until you’ve forgotten all about it

All the while she is talking to everyone who will not

say anything to you or to anyone who knows you who might

say something to you

About how you did this

Or rather did not do this

You are so unreasonable

So unkind

Unbending

She is again the injured party

And you the bully

 

She just wants her way

And so she will try and try again

Details and situations will change but the goal is

the general same

And someday

She will probably get what she wants

But there are so many no’s

A long list of losses that must be turned to wins

She is miserable

It is a constant wrestling

A war really

Even if you do not realize it

And she does not understand why you will not

just do what she wants

She does not really believe that she asks too much

And you resist purely on the conviction that no person

should have full control of any other person

She does not think it all that serious

You and everyone watching think that she is a little crazy

But if you knew what she was thinking she would not seem so crazy

She just wants her way

All the time